In the months leading up to our wedding I read a lot about marriage. While I had read books about biblical womanhood in my single years, I hadn’t read them with my future husband in plain view. So I wanted as much information to prepare me for marriage as possible—even if it meant rereading material I had read before. You can never be too prepared, right? In my sinful attempt to control every aspect of my life, I thought that if I just read enough than I would be fully prepared and perfected for the task of being a wife. Thankfully, God did not leave me in that delusion for long.
It didn’t take long for reality to set-in in my marriage. The hype of the wedding was over. The presents were opened and put away. The family and friends had left us and gone home. We were left with each other and it was so exciting for us. But it was also real life. And real life can be really ugly sometimes.
Within a few short weeks Daniel and I had to work through some decisions that affected both of us. At the time Daniel’s decision for us was different than what I wanted for us, and primarily what I wanted for me. His decision to go against my desires felt like a stab in the back. I thought he was against me, and sadly I treated him that way too. “How could this be happening,” I thought. “If he loved me he would give me everything I want, right?” Wrong.
Thankfully I woke up from my selfish delusion. It hit me one day when Daniel and I were talking and he said, “You know that I am for you, Court, don’t you?” His care for me, and decision to lead our family, was the perfect expression of his love and commitment to me. He knew his responsibility before God was a serious one, and he didn’t take these decisions lightly or without prayer. What I failed to see was that his leadership of our home was for my good, not my evil.
My failure to understand this reality said far more about my trust in God than it did my trust in my husband. God gave Daniel to me to lead me, protect me, and provide for me. It was not an accident. God’s love for me is not contingent on all of my felt needs being met. Neither is my husband’s love.
In my pride, I thought I had a pretty good handle on the whole biblical womanhood thing before I got married. After the wedding, it was a whole other story. I was afraid to even say anything about biblical womanhood because I thought people would know how miserably I was failing at home and not believe me. But that’s the whole point. I am a failure at loving, respecting, and submitting to my husband. I don’t naturally have a gentle and quiet spirit. None of us do. That is where Christ comes in. He has accomplished all of these things for us already on the Cross. He is our hope to live in obedience to his call as women, single and married. When we fail to live according to his purposes for us, and we will, we can look to the only One who ever lived perfectly—our Christ.
Monday, May 31, 2010
Thursday, May 27, 2010
What I Learned in the First Year: Sanctification
Before I got married people told me often how sanctifying marriage is. I believed them. Really, I did. But I didn’t get it. In my head I knew it. It just didn’t really register into knowledge. I was so wrapped up in being in love with Daniel that I often didn’t grasp all that the wise, older people were telling me.
And then I got married.
There is something really jarring about the first time (and every time, actually) you see the ugliness of your sin against the person you love the most. What I learned, very quickly, was that marriage has a way of holding a mirror up to your soul in a way no other relationship does. It makes you bare it all, in good and bad ways. Suddenly you can’t hide and pretend that you are a nice Christian woman. The man sleeping in the bed next to you, though he loves you, often knows that you can be quite different. The beauty of it all is that he loves you anyway. And you love him.
I would like to say that I am always excited about the promise of sanctification in my life through my marriage, but more often I am not. Most of the time, I am stubborn and angry that my sin is exposed. That is why I need sanctification!
Marriage has shown me more of my sin than I have ever seen before, but it has also shown me more of the Gospel. The hope of the covenant of marriage, and more importantly the covenant in the Gospel, is that we are in it for the long haul. Yes, we aren’t fully sanctified yet, but we are working to get there. And we are committed to each other’s growth and love for Christ and each other. Christ does not abandon us when we sin against him continually, nor do we turn from each other when we sin in much smaller magnitudes than sinning against the King of Kings.
So while I still have a long way to go before I am even close to being sanctified, I am grateful for the mirror that my relationship with my husband holds up to me on a daily basis. The picture isn’t always pretty. But Lord willing, I will be a better student of grace than I was this past year.
And then I got married.
There is something really jarring about the first time (and every time, actually) you see the ugliness of your sin against the person you love the most. What I learned, very quickly, was that marriage has a way of holding a mirror up to your soul in a way no other relationship does. It makes you bare it all, in good and bad ways. Suddenly you can’t hide and pretend that you are a nice Christian woman. The man sleeping in the bed next to you, though he loves you, often knows that you can be quite different. The beauty of it all is that he loves you anyway. And you love him.
I would like to say that I am always excited about the promise of sanctification in my life through my marriage, but more often I am not. Most of the time, I am stubborn and angry that my sin is exposed. That is why I need sanctification!
Marriage has shown me more of my sin than I have ever seen before, but it has also shown me more of the Gospel. The hope of the covenant of marriage, and more importantly the covenant in the Gospel, is that we are in it for the long haul. Yes, we aren’t fully sanctified yet, but we are working to get there. And we are committed to each other’s growth and love for Christ and each other. Christ does not abandon us when we sin against him continually, nor do we turn from each other when we sin in much smaller magnitudes than sinning against the King of Kings.
So while I still have a long way to go before I am even close to being sanctified, I am grateful for the mirror that my relationship with my husband holds up to me on a daily basis. The picture isn’t always pretty. But Lord willing, I will be a better student of grace than I was this past year.
Wednesday, May 26, 2010
Missions Wednesday: Ethiopia
It would be hard to talk about missions without talking about the plight of orphans throughout the world. Today there are estimated 143 million orphans in the world. An orphan is defined as a child having lost one or both parents. And the number is staggering. 143 million children who have faced the traumatic experience of losing a parent. 143 million children who, in many cases, need a home.
Ethiopia, in 2008, had an estimated 5.5 million orphans largely due to the spread of AIDS there. One in 6 Ethiopians either has AIDS or has been infected with HIV, leaving 1 million children orphaned by the disease. Nearly 250,000 children have been infected with the disease as well.
There are over 79 million people living in Ethiopia. North Ethiopia was one of the first Christian nations. And while Islam has grown into a prominent religion there, 65% of people would still claim Christianity (though the majority of that number would be apart of the Ethiopian Orthodox church). Due to persecution in the earlier parts of the 20th century, Protestantism grew in larger numbers.
Even though some would claim allegiance to Christianity, there seems to be a strong disconnect between the high percentage of AIDS and the high percentage of children orphaned by the crisis.
Ways to pray:
- Pray that those who claim Christ would live a life of purity, especially the men. Pray that the men of Ethiopia would lead by remaining pure with one woman—their wives.
- Pray that Christians would feel called to lead in orphan care in this country—whether through adoption, helping in orphanages, giving money, or praying.
- Pray for the Bible translation work in Ethiopia. There are 10-15 with a translation, and 24 left to be surveyed.
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Tuesday, May 25, 2010
One Year Later...
One year later…
I still think you are so dang cute.
I love holding your hand.
I enjoy going to bed with you and waking up next to you.
You still make me laugh, a lot.
I have realized I am much bigger sinner than I ever dared to think.
There is so much left to discover about who you are (and I love finding it out!).
You make me want to study the Bible more.
You help me to love and treasure the Savior.
We love just being together.
You are my best friend.
I love you more today than yesterday, which makes each new day that much more exciting.
Happy 1st anniversary, babe!
Monday, May 24, 2010
Family History and Good King Josiah
Imagine being the son or daughter of a man who was known for being evil. On top of that, imagine that it’s not just your dad who is evil, but your grandpa too. You are the product of a horrific family, a family that is determined to practice wickedness. In fact, all you have ever known in your family is wickedness. By the time you are born, your grandpa is far into his evil ways, and your father doesn’t live very long before he is killed by his own servants. This story isn’t imaginary. It’s real. In fact, it’s in the Bible. Maybe even today, there are some of you reading this who can relate to, and I hope be encouraged by, the life of King Josiah.
In 2 Chronicles 34 we are told that Josiah begins his reign. Prior to his ascension to the throne we are told briefly about his father, Amon’s reign and subsequent death. But it is his grandfather Manasseh who reigned for 55 years as a wicked king. Both men did not follow God wholeheartedly. They led Judah into idolatry and sin. But Josiah was different.
We don’t know much about Josiah’s life, how he came to serve the Lord with all of his heart. He was a product of a dysfunctional family. For all we know he did not even hear about the Lord in his home. It’s not an unlikely assumption considering he didn’t even find the Book of the Law until he was 18 years into his reign. Unlike his lost family, his life looked far more like King David’s than it did his father’s and grandfather’s life. God plucked him, changed his heart, and he followed God wholly.
Just because a person’s family is a mess, or their mother or father is lost, doesn’t mean they are destined for the same fate. The entire Scriptures bear out countless stories of children who are saved out of unsaved families. There is hope for the person who feels doomed to being a product of his or her own family history. God can change the course of that history, even if only for a generation (like it was in Josiah’s case). You do not have to be like the rest of your family. God is in the business of rescuing people from the darkest of situations, making them a disciple and worshipper, and getting glory for himself.
In 2 Chronicles 34 we are told that Josiah begins his reign. Prior to his ascension to the throne we are told briefly about his father, Amon’s reign and subsequent death. But it is his grandfather Manasseh who reigned for 55 years as a wicked king. Both men did not follow God wholeheartedly. They led Judah into idolatry and sin. But Josiah was different.
We don’t know much about Josiah’s life, how he came to serve the Lord with all of his heart. He was a product of a dysfunctional family. For all we know he did not even hear about the Lord in his home. It’s not an unlikely assumption considering he didn’t even find the Book of the Law until he was 18 years into his reign. Unlike his lost family, his life looked far more like King David’s than it did his father’s and grandfather’s life. God plucked him, changed his heart, and he followed God wholly.
Just because a person’s family is a mess, or their mother or father is lost, doesn’t mean they are destined for the same fate. The entire Scriptures bear out countless stories of children who are saved out of unsaved families. There is hope for the person who feels doomed to being a product of his or her own family history. God can change the course of that history, even if only for a generation (like it was in Josiah’s case). You do not have to be like the rest of your family. God is in the business of rescuing people from the darkest of situations, making them a disciple and worshipper, and getting glory for himself.
Thursday, May 20, 2010
Laura Bush on Abortion
Last week Laura Bush discussed her views on abortion (and other things) on Larry King Live. Based on what she said, she has been, and still is, in favor of abortion rights. Many things could be said about this information, but the thing that struck me most was the fact that she is a woman who is affiliated with conservative views. And not just any woman, a woman married to a president who was praised and endorsed for his commitment to being pro-life.
This says a lot about the need for women, especially Christians, to be committed to and vocal about being pro-life. It is a blessing when godly men exercise their calling as protector and defend women and the unborn. But, there is something very profound about a woman who stands for life in the face of many women who would say she is “abandoning the sisterhood.”
For pro-choice women, a pro-life husband and pro-choice wife makes perfect sense. In their minds a man holds that position because he’s never the one who is pregnant. But a pro-life woman can be perceived as confusing—and anti-woman.
Just because a pro-life man can be explained away as a chauvinist doesn’t mean he needs to stop being pro-life. The same goes for a woman who is labeled as backward and anti-woman. God is the author of life. Babies in the womb are image bearers of our King, not issues to be flippantly discussed and argued over. As much as the abortion movement would like to say that we are autonomous and have rights over our bodies, the reality is they never were our bodies to begin with—they were (and still are) God’s. He is the author of life and he decides when life ends.
I think it is sad that a woman who in some ways claims conservative principles would be so quick to be in favor of keeping Roe v. Wade as law. But it makes me wonder what would happen if an army of pro-life women joined the cause to be defenders of the unborn, even when women of their own political party are against them. People would watch.
(HT: Denny Burk)
This says a lot about the need for women, especially Christians, to be committed to and vocal about being pro-life. It is a blessing when godly men exercise their calling as protector and defend women and the unborn. But, there is something very profound about a woman who stands for life in the face of many women who would say she is “abandoning the sisterhood.”
For pro-choice women, a pro-life husband and pro-choice wife makes perfect sense. In their minds a man holds that position because he’s never the one who is pregnant. But a pro-life woman can be perceived as confusing—and anti-woman.
Just because a pro-life man can be explained away as a chauvinist doesn’t mean he needs to stop being pro-life. The same goes for a woman who is labeled as backward and anti-woman. God is the author of life. Babies in the womb are image bearers of our King, not issues to be flippantly discussed and argued over. As much as the abortion movement would like to say that we are autonomous and have rights over our bodies, the reality is they never were our bodies to begin with—they were (and still are) God’s. He is the author of life and he decides when life ends.
I think it is sad that a woman who in some ways claims conservative principles would be so quick to be in favor of keeping Roe v. Wade as law. But it makes me wonder what would happen if an army of pro-life women joined the cause to be defenders of the unborn, even when women of their own political party are against them. People would watch.
(HT: Denny Burk)
Monday, May 17, 2010
Monday Musings
I don't usually venture into "what I've been up to" on the blog, but honestly we have been so busy that I had nothing profound to put into a complete post. I have some thoughts, but they aren't anything worth reading yet (or maybe ever). So for those of you who are interested, here is a little update on what the Reissig's have been up to.
Our semester was quite busy with seminary, work, and youth pastor duties for Daniel, and work, Seminary Wives Institute, and helping Daniel duties for me. So when May 7 rolled around, and Daniel took his last final, we were one happy couple! We totally crashed that whole weekend following his last final, and didn't feel guilty for the utter laziness one bit. Right now he is on a brief break until he starts a summer class the day after Memorial Day.
Speaking of Memorial Day, we are quickly approaching our one year anniversary (more posts to follow on that)! Last year we got married on Memorial Day, so our anniversary is one week from tomorrow. I can hardly believe that it has been a year already. It went by so fast, yet I feel like I have changed and grown so much in this last year. Definetely sanctifying. Like I said, more posts to follow.
I took a couple of Seminary Wives classes this semester. It is a program that Mrs. Mohler heads up for the student wives. The class topics vary a lot, but some are really practical like the one I took this semester: Ministry of Hospitality. If I had to pick one thing that struck me most about this class it was about cultivating a love for my home and my family. It is so easy to get busy doing so many other things, but it is in my home that God has ordained for me to work diligently for his glory. I realized I have a LONG way to go before I understand how this all works fully, but I am so thankful to be here and learn from godly older men and women.
This summer doesn't hold any promises to be any slower than the semester, unfortunately. Well, it is for me. But Daniel is taking two classes so he can be finished with seminary forever by next May. It will be an intense year coming up for us. But we are all strapped in and ready for the ride. Thanks for taking time to peek in and join us!
Our semester was quite busy with seminary, work, and youth pastor duties for Daniel, and work, Seminary Wives Institute, and helping Daniel duties for me. So when May 7 rolled around, and Daniel took his last final, we were one happy couple! We totally crashed that whole weekend following his last final, and didn't feel guilty for the utter laziness one bit. Right now he is on a brief break until he starts a summer class the day after Memorial Day.
Speaking of Memorial Day, we are quickly approaching our one year anniversary (more posts to follow on that)! Last year we got married on Memorial Day, so our anniversary is one week from tomorrow. I can hardly believe that it has been a year already. It went by so fast, yet I feel like I have changed and grown so much in this last year. Definetely sanctifying. Like I said, more posts to follow.
I took a couple of Seminary Wives classes this semester. It is a program that Mrs. Mohler heads up for the student wives. The class topics vary a lot, but some are really practical like the one I took this semester: Ministry of Hospitality. If I had to pick one thing that struck me most about this class it was about cultivating a love for my home and my family. It is so easy to get busy doing so many other things, but it is in my home that God has ordained for me to work diligently for his glory. I realized I have a LONG way to go before I understand how this all works fully, but I am so thankful to be here and learn from godly older men and women.
This summer doesn't hold any promises to be any slower than the semester, unfortunately. Well, it is for me. But Daniel is taking two classes so he can be finished with seminary forever by next May. It will be an intense year coming up for us. But we are all strapped in and ready for the ride. Thanks for taking time to peek in and join us!
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